The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you’ll learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same.
I don’t know who you are, but your addition to my post is amazing. Thank you kind soul.
A while ago I read about autistic people and nesting somewhere & I think we don’t talk about that enough. Apparently, a lot of autistic people like nesting. I love nesting. I carefully choose a space to build my nest and I bring all my little trinkets there. I surround myself with everything I love and everything I could possibly need in the next few hours- my water bottle, a snack, my weighted blanket, my soft blanket, hand creme, my headphones, my charger, my favorite stuffed animals- so I don’t have to leave the nest to get anything. It makes me feel save and calm and like everything is gonna be ok. This is a nesting appreciation post. Any other autistics who love a good nest?
I keep a remote, a phone charger, my books, meds, my knitting, drinks, and my laptop in my corner of the couch. I never realized this was a thing, but I’m always confused when my husband keeps getting up to get things he wants instead of keeping everything he could possibly want in his corner.
Two nests - one on the sofa, one in bed
Posts that make you go: hmmm, maybe this applies to me too
Because ho boy, me and my partner both nest a lot lololololol
I love the “glasses are disability” thing because it applies to basically every complaint abled people have about disability
“You’re not even that bad, why would you get that?” Have you ever used a magnifying glass for small details or zoomed in on a picture
“Why do you have that accommodation TODAY?” Why do you wear reading glasses when you’re reading
“It seems like your ‘needs’ are inconsistent.” Yeah and you wear sunglasses when it’s sunny and not all the time
“But you can technically walk without that.” Yeah and if I put the page really close to your face you could read it, it would just hurt and be hugely impractical, inconvenient, and limiting
“But you COULD go without it all the time, you don’t NEED it to live.” And maybe you could technically see without your glasses, doesn’t mean it’s comfortable or practical day to day
“If you REALLY had a hard time seeing you would have glasses.” Have you ever known someone who couldn’t afford a new pair of glasses? Or eye appointments? Someone who needed vision therapy or special prism glasses? Someone whose vision only gets bad during migraines or seizures? Someone with astigmatism that glasses can’t help? Someone who didn’t qualify for LASIK?
“You only use it when you’re out in public.” Have you ever gotten up to use the bathroom at night without putting on your glasses
“Decorating it is just trying to get attention, and it’s a medical device so stop glamorizing it.” Do you hate any patterned or colorful glasses frames too? Art with characters who wear glasses? People who make OCs with glasses? Glasses chains, prescription sunglasses, aesthetic fake glasses with tinted lenses?
“There are secretly lots of people just using aids for fun and attention.” There are secretly lots of people wearing fake glasses or colored contacts for fun and attention, it does not affect you
“We need to find fakers, they’re stealing disabled resources!” Someone pretending to need glasses is “taking” a seat in the front from someone who might need it more. That sucks and they shouldn’t do that. But I’m not going to scrutinize every person who wears glasses to see if I think they really need that seat. You personally are not the arbiter of who is (based on the random times you’ve seen them) secretly not disabled
“My friend has that and doesn’t act like that.” Does every pair of glasses in production, or even every pair close to your prescription, work for you? Is your vision identical to every other nearsighted person?
“If you can do X why can’t you do Y? Some people with that can do Y.”/“But if you have that how can you do X? People with that can’t usually do X.” Some people are nearsighted and some people are farsighted and some people are both. Some farsighted people can read some without glasses and some can’t. And good distance vision doesn’t mean you don’t ever need glasses, it’s just an entirely different reason you’d need glasses
“You’re too young to need that.” And there are young people who need bifocal lenses
“Why don’t you use this DIFFERENT aid though, it would look like you didn’t even have an aid.” Why doesn’t everyone in the world wear contacts
“Why can’t I/my friend/my kid play with it?” Do you let random strangers and children try on your glasses at the grocery store
“I was just trying to help, I thought you’d need a push/you were in the way.” Are you cool with me suddenly pulling your glasses off your face to clean them, or because the glare was distracting me
“You’ll eventually stop using it though right?” Are you planning on no longer needing glasses someday
Disabled people are free to add
I am aware this is not a 1-to-1 perfectly accurate post. Do not come into the notes trying to “um actually this isn’t a perfect comparison.” I know. Just don’t
i think you’re lowballing the furry art amount tbh
I’m sorry for the inaccuracies, Doctor Yiff
no matter how I respond to this I don’t look good, well played. i walked right into that
Well, furry artists are typically more competent and courteous than your average doctor, so I can see that.
Did you just legitimately tell me that a person who draws wolf ass is more competent than a dude who spent 8+ years in a university to give you your lung transplant?
doctors are bullshit and furry artists perform an infinitely more valuable service to society compared to them
You will die in 7 days
It took doctor’s like 10 years to diagnose what was wrong with me, some insisting I was faking for attention while a furry artist I knew just went “that sounds like crohn’s” after hearing me complain once and ended up being right
Also I can’t go to a doctor and ask them to draw Rouge the Bat wider than she is tall with tits to match, now can I
[ID: a comic illustrating the above thread as if it was happening in a theater. The users are mostly shaped like their icons, pukicho is a pikachu and hokuto-ju-no-ken is a gengar. The last panel is gengar looks back where a speech bubble comes out of the crowd to say, “you could if you weren’t a fucking coward.” /end]
I can’t believe I’m actually seeing this post
Magic of tumblr,
I am morally obligated to add the YouTube video whenever this thread crosses my dash
I’ve seen this thread more than a few times. But this is the first time I’ve seen this video. So thank you for your service.
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